One question I get asked a lot is something like this...
I'm a highly sensitive person & I always take everything so personally. It is starting to affect my relationships. How do I stop taking things so personally all the time?
This is a tough one. Highly sensitive people are more prone to noticing their surroundings and small changes or details. So even the slightest change in someone's tone or actions can cause a tailspin of overthinking.
Are they mad at me? What did I do? Why did they say that?
You get the picture. So how do you stop taking things so personally?
First, you need to get your hands on one of the best books I own (it is a quick read too!), The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz. It is really helpful to re-read often.
Next, let's do some journaling to uncover your specific reasons to why you take things personally. Get out that journal and get ready to get introspective:
Now that you're getting into the thick of it, try these tips to avoid taking things too personally:
10/16/2017 03:14:12 pm
I understand all this, and the reason I take so many things personally is, I suppose, because I'm insecure. People often say things like "it's not always about you" or think those who take everything personally do so because they think the world revolves around them (in a good way), which must mean they are narcissistic or full of themselves. But in reality, it's the opposite. I guess I can see why, it is sort of backwards that a person would assume so many things are because of or about them yet think so little of themselves at the same time.
10/16/2017 03:26:50 pm
Hi Kara! Thanks for your comment. I agree... sometimes it IS about us and I think we just have to listen to others and decide if it was truly something we did "wrong"... take responsibility and apologize. Either way, the best thing you can do is to work to let it go. Even if someone perceives that you did something "wrong" or something to hurt them, usually it is because of their own insecurities or experiences that they took offense to something you did. I hope this makes sense! It is such a hard topic to deal with, especially as HSPs. Hang in there... feel free to join my group on FB to discuss more or message me! <3
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