I do believe there are two kinds of people in the world.
Those who love INBOX ZERO and those who DGAF (don't give a f) if their email box has a million unread messages.
Which one are you?
I'm definitely the first one (kinda wish I could be the second one sometimes). I get anxiety about unread emails and unchecked boxes on my to-do list. So take that with being bombarded by advertisements and email newsletters and it is enough for any highly sensitive person to go crazy.
So today your challenge is to go through your email inbox and clear out the clutter.
I suggest using a website like unroll.me to go through and see easily what you subscribe to and easily unsubscribe to what doesn't matter to you anymore. You can also "roll up" all of your newsletters into one email so still get what you want but your inbox isn't so cluttered.
Let me tell you, it feels super satisfying to unsubscribe from junk, especially when sometimes you don't even know how you got on that list to begin with.
Next, take some time to organize and clean your inbox if it bothers you. I like to separate emails into labels so I can sort and find messages easily. I also like to go back and delete super old emails from time to time. If you're really up for the challenge, organize your computer files as well.
After today's challenge... how do you feel after decluttering and unsubscribing? How many newsletters did you unsubscribe from? (Hopefully not mine! :))
Comment below or post on social media (don't forget to use #hsptechfree & tag me so I see it @findyourmagichsp)!
Okay, I get it. Unfollowing & Unfriending seems harsh! Especially for us HSPs. We worry about conflict, hurting other's feelings, etc.
But... don't you have people or companies on your social media feeds that:
a.) Give you anxiety?
b.) You compare yourself to and they make you feel like you're not cool enough, not smart enough, not attractive enough, etc.?
c.) Just annoy you to no end or make you upset in some other way?
YEAH, me too.
Next time these feelings come up in regards to someone or something you follow on social media, take notice. Maybe it is someone you don't even know why you are friends with. Maybe they are a friend, but you don't agree with things they post online. Maybe it is a company you no longer align with.
So today, for day one of the challenge, go through your social media lists today and unfollow or unfriend those people or pages that make you feel like CRAP. If you don't want to unfriend people, you can unfollow them or hide them and they won't even know.
TELL ME: How many people or pages did you unfollow or unfriend? How did it make you feel?
Do your social media accounts now feel more aligned with who you are and what you want to do online?
Comment below or share on social media... don't forget to tag me so I can see it @findyourmagichsp & #hsptechfree (because I love a good rhyme!).
Something I am realizing lately is how much we all numb ourselves. Numb our feelings. Our truths. Our emotions.
It is no secret that uncomfortable feelings are well... uncomfortable. We don't like to feel sad or angry or jealous or upset or anxious, etc.
So what do we do? We try to numb it. We turn on our TVs and binge Netflix. We pour ourselves a drink or light up a cigarette. We scroll mindlessly through our phones, aching for a notification to get that hit of dopamine.
I'm not saying all of this is so terrible. We all do it from time to time. Netflix can be relaxing. But when we engage in something to avoid uncomfortable feelings or engage in risky behaviors like smoking or excessive drinking, that's when the trouble starts.
So stop for a second and really think about it.
So what now?
Next time your trigger appears and you start to reach for your phone or go to pour yourself a drink or whatever you do, stop for a moment. Do you REALLY want to do this or are you trying to numb the emotion?
If you are trying to escape, reframe your thinking. What could be more constructive right now? How can you truly feel and release this uncomfortable feeling?
If you need some help with this, I can help with personalized 1:1 coaching. I am accepting 2 clients for July! Click here for more information & to apply.
Remember, ever let anyone dull your sparkle, especially not yourself.
Have you ever used essential oils?
They are everywhere these days, but for daily use and especially internal use, I recommend using a high quality brand like Doterra.
So why are essential oils so great for highly sensitive people?
For myself, they've helped me a lot with balancing my emotions and keeping myself healthy.
It is SO easy for highly sensitive people to become overwhelmed, unbalanced and even sick because of internal emotions and external stimuli. Essential oils can definitely help with all of that.
My favorite oils are OnGuard (it boosts the immune system and I swear it keeps me healthy when others get sick!), Peppermint (feels so good when you have any type of pain or a stomachache or headache), DigestZen (great for stomach issues), Serenity and Balance (amazing for anxiety or a calming bath) and Citrus Bliss (great for energy). Doterra also has lots of natural supplements, skin care products, hair care products, and more. I also love diffusing scents in the air while I work to maintain a relaxed atmosphere.
Visit my Doterra website here: www.mydoterra.com/laurenstewart6
“Forgive yourself for not being where you thought you would be by now.”
- Terri Cole
Somewhere along the line, society tells us to get in line.
We are basically told the "perfect" life is to graduate college, have a successful career, get married and have kids. All by age 25.
Who decided that?! Kudos to the people who have that, but it just isn't very realistic. And newsflash, not everyone even wants that.
But likely you've received rude comments from people about your lifestyles choices, whether it is your job, relationship status or thoughts on kids. You might have even started to believe you're doing something wrong for not having this so called "perfect" life.
Screw that. Don't listen to society or even your family. But the most important thing I want to share is that you need to forgive yourself for not being where you want to be yet.
Some of the most successful people didn't find their success until much later in life. You don't have to have all the answers or have everything put together by now. Or ever.
In my experience, life takes you where you need to be. The best things in my life have happened by surprise and weren't part of my "plan" or even something I was pursuing.
Take this as your reminder that you don't have to have it all figured out today. It takes time to find the career best suited for you, a long-lasting relationship or whatever you're searching for. Take it from me. I'm known to be super impatient and learn this lesson over and over.
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If you are a highly sensitive person, you might know what it is like to live with some type of anxiety.
For me, my anxiety probably started when I was young and couldn't make sense of my emotions and feelings. Everything overwhelmed me. School was basically a nightmare. I could only cope when things were calm and quiet (which, let's be honest, weren't that often in school).
The strangest things set me off. Little did I know, somewhere along the line I developed emetophobia (fear of vomiting) with my anxiety. I remember watching "Matilda" in school and starting to panic during that scene where they make that kid eat all the cake. I was sure they were going to show him throwing up and I couldn't handle it. I started freaking out and was too embarrassed to say why so I made up something about not liking the movie.
Fast forward to now, at almost 28, I've definitely had my share of ups and downs with anxiety. Just because I've developed courses and am now coaching others with high sensitivity does not mean I'm perfect or am completely cured. Isn't that really what a coach is? I'm working through my stuff to help you work through yours.
So where am I going with this? I wanted to share some of my story and tell you what the #1 thing I believe helps me release anxiety. It isn't meditation or self-care or even mindfulness, even though I know all of those things can be helpful.
Read on to find out the #1 thing that I realized helps me feel less anxious...
One question I get asked a lot is something like this...
I'm a highly sensitive person & I always take everything so personally. It is starting to affect my relationships. How do I stop taking things so personally all the time?
This is a tough one. Highly sensitive people are more prone to noticing their surroundings and small changes or details. So even the slightest change in someone's tone or actions can cause a tailspin of overthinking.
Are they mad at me? What did I do? Why did they say that?
You get the picture. So how do you stop taking things so personally?
Well, do you?
Recently, I was thinking about signs. Signs can be all around you.
I decided to pick something random that I could start noticing to tell me if I was on the right path. My sign is completely random and I just chose the first thing that popped into my head.
Did I mention I chose a ladybug as a sign in the middle of winter? Kind of silly right?
But boy did I start noticing ladybugs. Not necessarily ones in nature, but all around me ladybug photos, cartoons and references started showing up.
Now, every time I see a ladybug of some sort, I feel calm. I remember I am being guided and this is where I am supposed to be.
You can also use signs to determine if you are on the right path. For example, if you are house hunting, you can pick something like a teddy bear to help you determine which is the right house for you. If you truly believe, chances are you'll probably see a teddy bear sitting on a bed in the house that ends up being perfect for you.
Do you ever use signs? What signs have you looked for? I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences with this. :)
I've recently created a FREE, mini-course on the 5 steps I use to avoid overwhelm as a highly sensitive person. I also created a video with more information on my 21 day course for highly sensitive people to learn to thrive & embrace their sensitivity.
When I get messages, the #1 thing I get asked about all the time is how to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
Being a highly sensitive person can be super overwhelming. Lights, noise, other people, work, home, stress... everything affects you on a larger scale.
It doesn't matter really what overwhelms you, you can learn to manage the overwhelm and stop it when it does creep in.
That's why I created a FREE, mini-course for you with my favorite 5 steps to being less overwhelmed as a highly sensitive person.
So... do you want to learn these 5 steps to preventing overwhelm as a HSP? Sign up for my mini-course and let me know your top takeaway!
If you love the mini-course and want more from me and really want to dive deep into embracing your high sensitivity, you can also enroll in my 21 day course for highly sensitive people!
I am doing my absolute best to make my course for highly sensitive people the most accessible site, easy to use and beneficial for YOU!
I went from sending emails each day, to downloadable PDFs, to transferring my course on the website Teachable! It is now super user friendly and much more beautiful. It is now closer to the course I imagined from the beginning. You can now also make multiple payments!
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