Something I am realizing lately is how much we all numb ourselves. Numb our feelings. Our truths. Our emotions.
It is no secret that uncomfortable feelings are well... uncomfortable. We don't like to feel sad or angry or jealous or upset or anxious, etc.
So what do we do? We try to numb it. We turn on our TVs and binge Netflix. We pour ourselves a drink or light up a cigarette. We scroll mindlessly through our phones, aching for a notification to get that hit of dopamine.
I'm not saying all of this is so terrible. We all do it from time to time. Netflix can be relaxing. But when we engage in something to avoid uncomfortable feelings or engage in risky behaviors like smoking or excessive drinking, that's when the trouble starts.
So stop for a second and really think about it.
So what now?
Next time your trigger appears and you start to reach for your phone or go to pour yourself a drink or whatever you do, stop for a moment. Do you REALLY want to do this or are you trying to numb the emotion?
If you are trying to escape, reframe your thinking. What could be more constructive right now? How can you truly feel and release this uncomfortable feeling?
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Remember, ever let anyone dull your sparkle, especially not yourself.
Have you ever used essential oils?
They are everywhere these days, but for daily use and especially internal use, I recommend using a high quality brand like Doterra.
So why are essential oils so great for highly sensitive people?
For myself, they've helped me a lot with balancing my emotions and keeping myself healthy.
It is SO easy for highly sensitive people to become overwhelmed, unbalanced and even sick because of internal emotions and external stimuli. Essential oils can definitely help with all of that.
My favorite oils are OnGuard (it boosts the immune system and I swear it keeps me healthy when others get sick!), Peppermint (feels so good when you have any type of pain or a stomachache or headache), DigestZen (great for stomach issues), Serenity and Balance (amazing for anxiety or a calming bath) and Citrus Bliss (great for energy). Doterra also has lots of natural supplements, skin care products, hair care products, and more. I also love diffusing scents in the air while I work to maintain a relaxed atmosphere.
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“Forgive yourself for not being where you thought you would be by now.”
- Terri Cole
Somewhere along the line, society tells us to get in line.
We are basically told the "perfect" life is to graduate college, have a successful career, get married and have kids. All by age 25.
Who decided that?! Kudos to the people who have that, but it just isn't very realistic. And newsflash, not everyone even wants that.
But likely you've received rude comments from people about your lifestyles choices, whether it is your job, relationship status or thoughts on kids. You might have even started to believe you're doing something wrong for not having this so called "perfect" life.
Screw that. Don't listen to society or even your family. But the most important thing I want to share is that you need to forgive yourself for not being where you want to be yet.
Some of the most successful people didn't find their success until much later in life. You don't have to have all the answers or have everything put together by now. Or ever.
In my experience, life takes you where you need to be. The best things in my life have happened by surprise and weren't part of my "plan" or even something I was pursuing.
Take this as your reminder that you don't have to have it all figured out today. It takes time to find the career best suited for you, a long-lasting relationship or whatever you're searching for. Take it from me. I'm known to be super impatient and learn this lesson over and over.
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If you are a highly sensitive person, you might know what it is like to live with some type of anxiety.
For me, my anxiety probably started when I was young and couldn't make sense of my emotions and feelings. Everything overwhelmed me. School was basically a nightmare. I could only cope when things were calm and quiet (which, let's be honest, weren't that often in school).
The strangest things set me off. Little did I know, somewhere along the line I developed emetophobia (fear of vomiting) with my anxiety. I remember watching "Matilda" in school and starting to panic during that scene where they make that kid eat all the cake. I was sure they were going to show him throwing up and I couldn't handle it. I started freaking out and was too embarrassed to say why so I made up something about not liking the movie.
Fast forward to now, at almost 28, I've definitely had my share of ups and downs with anxiety. Just because I've developed courses and am now coaching others with high sensitivity does not mean I'm perfect or am completely cured. Isn't that really what a coach is? I'm working through my stuff to help you work through yours.
So where am I going with this? I wanted to share some of my story and tell you what the #1 thing I believe helps me release anxiety. It isn't meditation or self-care or even mindfulness, even though I know all of those things can be helpful.
Read on to find out the #1 thing that I realized helps me feel less anxious...
One question I get asked a lot is something like this...
I'm a highly sensitive person & I always take everything so personally. It is starting to affect my relationships. How do I stop taking things so personally all the time?
This is a tough one. Highly sensitive people are more prone to noticing their surroundings and small changes or details. So even the slightest change in someone's tone or actions can cause a tailspin of overthinking.
Are they mad at me? What did I do? Why did they say that?
You get the picture. So how do you stop taking things so personally?